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Ways of healing HATE ...........

Updated: Feb 20, 2022


Sharing my notes from a seminar with Bhante Akaliko Bhikkhu .....

  • Meditation

( because punching people in the face is not allowed )


  • Oh ! But we must never get angry ! It's simply not spiritual

Anger is a natural part of being human

Anger can tell us that something is not right

  • If we only surround ourselves with ’no bad vibes and positive people only ‘ stance

can be a denial of the complexity of the human experience

When is anger overcome on the Buddhist Path ?

There are two conditions for the arising of hate.

What two ?

The feature of repulsion and improper attention. These are the two conditions for the arising of hate. Anger leads to hate. Hate leads to suffering.


Let it go


If hate arises , try not hold on to it. Remember it can take time and many attempts to let go ….

Accentuate the positives see the good qualities to balance out the negatives


Hate arises in the mind and ceases in the mind


Strategies for dealing with hate …..

  1. Know the drawbacks of hate ( wanting the other to suffer but it is in fact us who swallow the poison of hate making our mind and body sick)

  2. Let it go ….slowly, gradually and with practice like how the rock becomes smooth from the gradual rain, sand and weather eventually the roughness of the rock becomes smooth

  3. Accentuate the positives e.g. a dirty rag, mossy water, a cow’s footprint beauty can be found

  4. Lower your expectations and accept reality - what else do you expect ?

It could be worse ! Seeing that things are bearable, the relentless positivity of Puna If they throw stones at me I’ll think these people are gracious since they don’t beat me with a club ? Cultivate qualities that help support love to grow. Develop ethical conduct, kindness, contentment, humility, be easy to talk to, un-stressed, relaxed and polite Soften our edges, and get familiar with a mind of love Ideas to help melt your heart :

  • Play with dogs

  • Pat a cat

  • Watch nature documentaries

  • Do random act of kindness

  • Watch inspiring stories of humans being nice

  • Be generous, be kind and help others

  • Treat yourself

  • Have a break from the news and social media

  • Avoid people who stress you out and trigger you










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